2006-07-18

Zakaj so poroke prenehale biti smiselne

[Prvotno objavljeno na forumu slovenskega Cosmopolitana]

Poroka v tradicionalnem smislu (mišljena kot obljuba dosmrtne zvestobe) je zastarel koncept. Ne zastarel v smislu, da zaradi starosti same po sebi ni več dober, temveč v smislu, da je zarjavel in škripa in propada in je na tem, da bo pravkar razpadel.

Monogamna poroka je bila funkcionalen režim v času, ko je bila pričakovana življenjska doba posameznika 40 let, posameznice pa 35, ker je verjetno umrla med kakšnim porodom. Doživljenjska poroka je smiselna v okolju, kjer ni kondomov in zdravil in je življenje kratko. V takem primeru je smiselna za žensko, ker ji moški s poroko obljubi oskrbo do konca življenja, kar pripomore k uspešni razširitvi njenih genov. Zato se tradicionalno lahko ženska loči od moža, če je ne more preskrbeti ali je neploden. V istih okoliščinah je poroka smiselna za moškega, ker mu obljubi zvestobo partnerke: čas in energija, ki ju bo vlagal, bosta pripomogla k razplodu njegovih genov, ne genov drugih na njegov račun. Zato se tradicionalno lahko mož loči od žene, če ga vara ali je neplodna. In v takem okolju je poroka smiselna za družbo: če ni kondomov, je vsesplošna monogamija najboljša ovira proti širjenju spolnih bolezni.

Danes tega okolja ni več in monogamna poroka je preostanek tradicije sveta, ki več ne obstaja. O pričakovani življenjski dobi posameznika lahko le ugibamo; dosežki na področju medicine nam lahko prinesejo mladost pri 80ih in življenje tja do 200-ega. Poroka pri 15ih s pričakovano življenjsko dobo 40 let je ena stvar, ampak ali si upate poročiti za vekomaj, če boste živeli 200 in bili privlačni vse do zadnjega? Saj v tem ni smisla. Zavarovanje investicije v razmnoževanje je danes tudi manjši problem, saj obstaja kontracepcija in test očetovstva. Bolezni tudi niso tako problematične, kot so bile, saj obstajajo kondomi, testi in zdravila, ki nudijo obrambo na treh linijah, kjer pred 200 leti ni bilo nobene.

Kdor je razpet med nasprotjema tradicionalne doktrine in med stanjem realnega sveta, je razpet z razlogom. Doktrina ne ustreza več realnosti.

Mnogi se tega lotevajo tako, da poskušajo realnost prikrojiti doktrini. To je pristop, ki bi ga imeli v Butalah; ne funkcionira in ne vodi k harmoniji.

Ključno je spoznati, da doktrina nikoli ni bila namenjena temu, da bi služila sama sebi. Namenjena je bila temu, da služi nam. Če po tehtnem logičnem razmisleku ugotovimo, da nam dolgoročno več ne služi, jo je torej treba spremeniti. Tehten logičen razmislek pa je žal prav tisto, čemur se današnje moralne "avtoritete" trudijo na vse kriplje izogniti.

The US goes Iranian on gambling

In Iran, the government thinks it right to uphold "morality" by dictating a dress code women are required to adhere to.

In the United States, the government thinks it right to uphold "morality" by disallowing its citizens from gambling over the internet.

The United States have just arrested a non-US citizen while he was transferring between international flights on US soil for the crime of running an internet gambling business outside the United States that, while being 100% legal where it's based, took online bets from US citizens.

Many things are illegal in China that are not illegal elsewhere. Is China entitled to enforce its laws worldwide? Is it entitled to jail foreign citizens for providing Chinese citizens with online access to things that are prohibited in China?

Suppose that China took upon itself to enforce its laws internationally and jailed Google executives while on visit in Beijing. Suppose China sentenced Larry Page to 30 years in jail for the crime of providing online search results that include anti-communist links to Chinese citizens.

What would the American reaction be? Would the United States send a stern warning to the Chinese government? Sure it would. Would it punish the Chinese one way or another if it didn't free Mr. Page? Of course it would.

Except that when the tables are turned, the USA thinks it is entitled to doing exactly the same thing it would never let the Chinese do. Arrest a foreign citizen for the crime of providing a service to American citizens that is legal where it is provided, but illegal in the United States.

How hypocritical!

2006-07-09

Jesus Christ Superstar

If you ask me - and I'm no expert on Slovenian culture, which would be because I have a prejudice that there isn't much of it worth talking about to begin with - but if you ask me, the single greatest Slovenian contribution to worldwide culture is Laibach's edition of Jesus Christ Superstar.

This song - no, this... work of auditory art - is just so powerful, so awe-inspiring, so strong and so well-executed, I just can't get enough of it. And, don't get me wrong - this is no piece to listen at room volume, or without a solid bass. It's a piece to play at full volume, as loud as you can risk when you're at home alone and most neighbors are away.

Laibach has a bunch of other stuff which I find interesting and OK, but Jesus Christ Superstar I think is very much their best. Then again, that is only my own taste and opinion.

Circumcision as an adult, part 3

In my previous posts about being circumcised (part 1 and part 2) I described my actual circumcision and the first days of healing.

Six weeks later, now that I have had some new sexual experience, I think I can say quite safely that the sensations are way better. Previously, my sensations on penetration were limited to the glans penis and immediately below it when inserting the penis, and very little sensation at all when retracting it. This is because the foreskin would attach itself to the walls of the vagina, where it would mostly stand still - the so called gliding action. Regardless of what it says in the linked Wikipedia article, this gliding action sucked. I have a pretty average width penis, perhaps even a bit below average. Therefore, if the woman had a normal-sized pussy, because of the gliding action, I would feel very little sensation when penetrating, and almost no sensation when using a condom. Because of the lack of sensation, it could be difficult to maintain a hard erection - that is, unless the woman had a very tight pussy; or had very strong vaginal muscles she would exercise; or I was very aroused to begin with.

Now, without the foreskin, the sensations are so much better. My first surprise when inserting the penis was that, with a condom, I didn't feel as much on the head of the penis as I used to. The glans had become desensitized because of constant exposure, so now there is less sensation on the glans, even less with a condom. However, because there is no gliding action, I now feel so much more along the whole shaft of the penis that the sex is just awesome. It used to be that, because of the lack of sensation, I could have not-very-interesting sex for a long time without coming until I became limp from exhaustion. This is no more: now, I can actually feel the vagina along the whole shaft, and this is such a turn on that high arousal and a climax are unavoidable. I can now feel a normal pussy very well, and a tight pussy (which earlier I needed to feel anything much at all!) is now a mind-boggling mix of sensation that leads to a vulcanic climax.

Amazingly, even though the sex is shorter because I'm so much more aroused, my girlfriend says she can feel me so much better and also enjoys sex much more than before!

The change in sensation is undeniable. However, I imagine that some of the extra arousal is also temporary because I've had sex infrequently since the operation, so as not to hinder the healing; and that part of it is because I do not climax alone any more. My earlier techniques now don't work any longer; they are arousing, but they do not take me to an orgasm. And I don't even want to learn masturbation again: I find that my attitude towards sex is more pure, my desire is greater, and my experience is better if I am unable to take care of the tension myself.

In summary:
  • If you want a circumcision for any reason; especially if you feel that gliding action due to the foreskin is depriving you of pleasure; then do it. I can testify that, without the foreskin causing the gliding action, the experience is so much better. Previously, when I penetrated into a vagina, my thought every time was: "Why does this feel so bland? Shouldn't this feel much more intensive?" Now, my thought is: "God this feels good!"

    So - pick the one you prefer. :)
     
  • With regard to the aesthetics of the operation, you might be much better off going to an aesthetic surgeon than going to a urologist. If I did this again, I wouldn't go to a urologist because, now, my circumcision is seriously lopsided: there's more skin on the right than on the left side. It doesn't bother me functionality, but it's just not as pretty as it could be. I think an aesthetic surgeon would likely have done this better, and I still hold a grudge towards the urologist who operated on me (dr. prim. Marko Stanonik) for failing to do it nicely and symmetrically.

    Still, I am more satisfied with my circumcision than I was without it!

2006-07-04

Elastic tabs

A really neat source code editing idea:
"Rather than saying that a tab character (a "hard tab") will move the cursor until the cursor's position is a multiple of N characters, we should say that a tab character is a delimiter between table cells..."